How attractive am I?
People who ask "how attractive am I" are often hoping for a number. This page explains why a number is not that helpful, and what you can learn instead.
The problem with a 1 to 10 score
A score sounds clear, but it is hard to use. If you get a 6, what do you do next? You do not know if it was your face, the photo, the light, or the person rating you.
Scores also change a lot from person to person. One person might give you a 5 and the next an 8 for the same photo.
A score can also stick in your head in a way that is not fair to you. A photo is one moment, not the whole person.
Comparing your own photos is more useful
When people rank 3 of your photos from best to worst, you compare you against you. The only thing that changes is the photo. That makes the answer clear.
Once you know which photo came out on top, you can use it first on your dating profile and try new photos against it later.
It also helps you see patterns. If your outdoor photos keep beating your indoor ones, you know what kind of photos to take next.
Who you ask matters
If you want to know how you come across on a dating app, the best people to ask are the kind of people who would see you there. On The Face They See, real people of the opposite gender rank your photos.
You can pick the age range of the people who rank you. You can also add an ethnicity preference if you want. Both are optional, similar to dating app settings.
Friends are usually too nice to be much help here. Strangers are more honest, because they only have your photos to go on.
How it works
Upload 3 photos of yourself. Your upload goes live after you rank 5 other sets of photos. Real people then rank your photos, and results come in over a few days.
When your results are ready, you get a results card with a link you can share. Every upload is free forever, including your second, third, and every one after that. Paying is only an optional way to skip the wait. You can pay $10 once or $30 for 5 skips, and paying does not change your results.
What you can change
How attractive you look in a photo depends a lot on things you control. Angles, facial expression, and style all matter. Daylight outdoors usually works better than a mirror selfie in the bathroom.
Take dozens of photos, keep the best couple, and test those. More tips are on our rate my looks page.
Common questions
- Will I get a number from 1 to 10?
- No. People rank your 3 photos from best to worst. You see which photo came out on top, which is easier to act on than a score.
- Can I choose who ranks me?
- Yes. You can choose an age range for the people who rank you, and you can add an ethnicity preference if you want.
- How long until I see results?
- Your upload goes live after you rank 5 other sets of photos. Results come in over a few days.
- Is it free?
- Yes. Every upload is free forever. Paying to skip the line is optional and does not change your results.